Online Dating – One Guy’s Experiences!

It was last Spring when desperation got the better of me! I finally bit the bullet and started “online dating”. But with a vengeance – I joined about seven or eight dating sites in the space of a week! And after a month I found I was going online every day. It became an addiction very quickly. I wasn’t even eating – I became glued to my screen for hours on end, sometimes until two or three in the morning. I was sending out dozens of emails to girls daily. Each week I’d easily send well over a hundred emails, sometimes more.

The trouble was, hardly any of the girls I was writing to would ever reply. Occasionally I’d get an email back. But often the correspondence would fizzle out after two or three emails. Couldn’t figure out where I was going wrong. Got advice from a couple of mates. A female friend of mine looked over my profiles and made some suggestions (talk about your interests a bit more, say what you can offer in a relationship, make yourself stand out from the crowd, add more humour). In fact, she even took some pretty cool digital photos of me which we uploaded on some of the sites. I even paid a “professional profile writer” sixty pounds to check and improve my profile. I really wanted to start getting women to respond to me. And I tried everything I could think of.

It got to around August. I still hadn’t met anyone offline. It was now five months since I started “online” dating. I’d got nowhere. I’d spent time and money and probably wrote over 2,000 emails in that time. I had become so addicted that over the weeks and months I withdrew from my friends and went out less and less. By the Summer I wasn’t getting out the house. I’d go to work, then rush home to get onto the internet. And I’d stay on my pc all night until I was so tired I was “forced” to go to bed. But in August I’d struck up what seemed to be an ongoing correspondence with a girl who gradually seemed more and more interested. My membership on some of the sites was shortly coming to an end and, just as it was doing so, this girl was writing to me more and more. She looked attractive in her photos, and she wrote great emails back. Some of them got a bit flirty and I really began to finally get a sense of optimism. Could it be that, after five months of continual and hectic emailing to everyone who was online dating on the planet, my luck would finally turn good?

After three weeks and around fifteen or so emails with this girl, I suggested we meet. She agreed. She offered me her number. I called her. We chatted. Oh yes we chatted alright – I think we were on the phone for a good six hours on our first phone call. I was truly taken aback by the experience. She said she felt really fantastic about me and couldn’t wait to meet. We arranged to meet in two days, on the Thursday. The day after we spoke on the phone (the day before the day we’d arranged to meet) we swopped loads of texts, mostly quite flirty ones. Thursday arrived. The big day. After almost six months of online dating I was finally going to meet a girl for real. I was so excited by it all, much more so because of how much we’d both built this whole thing up.

We finally met. It was instant attraction I thought (although she was “larger” than she’d said in her profile and looked in her photos (who said the camera never lies? Some clever angles and she’d managed to somehow lose around four dress sizes!). Yes it bugged me, but I wasn’t going to let it be an issue. And she was actually quite pretty. We had a drink, then another, and then another. By drink number four we were quite intimately entwined… well we were snogging full on. Then, a couple more drinks further down the line we were doing more than snogging. This was great. No, this was amazing. She was amazing and she thought I was amazing.

It seemed too good to be true. But it was happening. for real. She told me that she had to go away the next day for work and had to be up really early, but said she wanted to meet the day after, on saturday, and that she wanted to spend the weekend with me, sleep with me, and just spend time together. Well I was certainly up for that. We snogged loads before parting company at the station!

I texted her a bit later. It was just to say what a great evening it had been and how fab and sexy I thought she was and that I couldn’t wait until saturday. Didn’t get a reply, but then I thought that’s ok, she might be on the tube or something. texted again a bit later to say goodnight.

By next morning still no text from her. Hmmm…. odd I thought. Sent another text to say I hope she was OK and to say good morning. I went to work. Lunchtime, nothing. Mid afternoon, nothing. 4pm, nothing. 5pm, nothing. 5.30pm, nothing. 5.45pm, nothing. 5.50pm, nothing, 5.51pm, nothing. Nothing, nothing, nothing. This was getting silly. I was staring at my mobile waiting for a text. But nothing. At 6.00pm I phoned. Yeap, you guessed it… straight to voicemail. Left a message. Sent another text and phoned again later that night. Hear nothing.

I never did hear back from her again. My one hope, my one single strand of optimism from “online” dating, my one potential success story from six months of being glued to these dating sites every day, vanished into a weird and bizarre puff of emotional obscurity.

I don’t do online dating anymore. I’ve read that people have met online, have great relationships, get married, go on exciting travels, get emotionally connected… but I wonder if it’s not just all media hype. If online dating is the new food of love then, if my experience is anything to go by, I don’t think I even had a cheese sandwich on the menu. I hope you, dear reader, may get to choose from the a la carte!

A Cool Guide To Women’s Triathlon Bikes

The world of bicycles is huge- there is so much choice that it can be overwhelming. Here are the basics you need to know so you know what you are looking for, you can use a few key phrases in the bike store so the shop guys know that YOU know what you are talking about, wont mess you around or patronise you and will give you a good deal.

Compared to a regular road bike, women’s triathlon bikes are designed with a different geometry. The seat tubes of a triathlon bike are inclined more forward with 75 to 78 degrees of inclination and are lower on the front end to provide a time trial position. Due to its steeper seat tube angle, the quadriceps are emphasized more. This spares the running muscles so you can conserve some energy for the run later on.

Ordinary road bikes on the other hand are designed to corner, climb, and sprint. Their seat tube angles range from 72 to 74 degrees and are set up to cater for common riding positions. They are more upright and less aerodynamic so they require more muscle power to move them forward.

However, if you do have a decent road bike, there is no need to panic and go out and get a new bike. You can adapt the one you have. A road bike can be transformed into a triathlon bike by adding a forward seat post and aero bars.

Of course it is great to have both, but if you are just starting this method will do just fine. You can upgrade later when you know you like it and when the time is right.

The wheels are really important to the bike as they have a major effect on the speed. Most people have a pair of training wheels and a pair of race wheels. When you are starting out, do not worry about this at all- just get training!

But if you are a little more advanced, use a pair of cheaper wheels for training but buy the best pair of wheels you can afford to race on. (This pair you do not take out in all weathers, through the mud and pot holed roads!)

A pair of aero wheels for racing will enable you to cut through the air much better while also achieving higher speeds, in timed events they will help trim off the seconds. Many women are worried that they will look silly if they enter a race without all the latest gear. Do not worry about this at all. People enter events all the time on mountain bikes, borrowed bikes from friends or their old high school bike. Yes there will always be a bit of bling at the event but there is nothing more satisfying than cycling past a blinged up cyclist on your old fashioned cheap bike because you are simply fitter, leaner and stronger. Focus on your training- the better bike will enhance your performance but it will not make up for poor training.

In the end the athlete still has to do the work! Yes there are very pretty bikes in cycling magazines but these are pro cyclists who are sponsored. Do not compare yourself to these people. Get real, get training and get down to your races on any bike you can find!

The other key to cycling is bike position. Once you have chosen a bike it is a really good idea to get a specialist bike fit. Bike training takes up such a large proportion of your training I would almost say that if the bike shop does not provide a fitting service- go and find somewhere that does. It is imperative that you are comfortable.

This is the difference between chatting to some local experts and getting proper service to buying one $100 cheaper on the internet but not getting the service. I would go for service every time.

Make sure the bike fits you properly and you can take it back for adjustments after a couple of months riding as things will move around. Make sure you shop around and talk to different people. Get to know the bike language as much as possible. Take a friend with you who knows about bikes if you can. This will be a great help in making the decision as I have seen people who think they know what they want from their research but once they get in the store, get tempted by the glistening expensive extras on offer and spend thousands more than they planned for not much more in performance!

Success And the Need for a Business Strategy

My name is Dr Graham Clingbine and over the years I have been involved with various home income opportunities including Cabouchon, Telecom Plus and the Shopping Genie. I have built successful teams and helped others along the way to earn a regular income. There is nothing more exciting than receiving commission cheques in the mail and watching the envelope dropping through your letterbox or seeing the ”payment in” appearing on your bank statement. Excitement increases when payments arrive from overseas sources as well as your own country. This article is designed to help you build an income…so we have called it Success…..and the need for a business strategy.

People often start a home-based business full of enthusiasm and motivation. It seems that only a minority remain involved for the long term and make money. So let’s look at some of the issues around this.

People often start with the hope that they will do well. Hope is not enough. To be successful you need a business plan… a flexible strategy to set out what you intend to do, how you are going to do it, and by when. In some businesses you have to take into account outgoings such as rent, stock purchase, staff salaries, advertising or marketing, and delivery costs. Many home based businesses in network marketing or multi-level marketing do not include these outgoings but a business strategy is still essential to be successful.

It is often said that ”if you fail to plan then you plan to fail” and I think this is very true. When new people join my team where possible I like to meet them in person and build up a personal rapport. Part of this includes finding out what they expect to get out of their new business… everyone has different expectations and therefore will take different times to achieve their dreams, ambitions or goals. So setting realistic targets is a good way to start a new business and your mentor or sponsor can help you with this. I would suggest that separate SHORT, MEDIUM and LONG term goals should be set…and as mentioned they should be REALISTIC… I also believe they should be set down in writing in a notebook or planner and should not be floating around in your head. By writing down your goals you are making a visible commitment to achieving them and you can see as you go along if you are achieving your targets or falling short. You could review your set plans and achievements at intervals such as 6 months, 3 years and 8 years down the line.

For many home businesses a very important strategy is to use the concept of ”referrals”. One of the first things to do on starting a home business is to write in a folder a ”contact list”. Think of everybody you know. Do not pre-judge people. Some people you know may not be very good in business or may not be interested, but you don’t know who they know. So you start by writing down your contact list. Ask yourself the question ”who do I know”? Think of friends, family, neighbours, work colleagues, any clubs you may attend such as sports clubs or social clubs… who do you meet at Church, Synagogue or Mosque?… who do you send Christmas cards to? What about local shopkeepers, postman, doctor, dentist, builder, plumber. Let’s say you produce a list of 100 names. That’s a good start, you have 100 people to talk to and it cost you nothing. What happens if you phone a friend and he/she is not interested? Do not keep pestering them, maybe they may change their mind and join you in six months. What you can do is ask them ”who do you know?”

This is about getting referrals. Say your friend does not want your service or to join your business… ask for 5 names and phone numbers of people your friend knows who might be interested, they might even phone them on your behalf just to introduce you so when you phone it will not be a cold call. Some friends may give you zero referrals, another might give you 10. Let’s say you on average got 5 referrals from each friend on your contact list. So if you started with 100 names on this list and each one gave you 5 referrals… if you work out how many people that gives you to talk to it is… LOTS! Your expanded list will keep you very busy.

What about phone technique? When you phone someone to talk about a new service do not launch straight in. If you start by ”do you want to join my new business” or ”would you like my new money-saving offer” you will get a quick ”no” as people are very wary and defensive. Your phone conversation to a friend, let’s call her Ann, could go rather like this… ”Hi John, this is Ann, we haven’t spoken for a long time. How are you? How is the family? How is your job going? Great, listen, I know you have a long time experience of business and you deal with businesses in your job, I would really value your opinion on something I have just started. Your help would be much appreciated. It is too difficult to explain it on the phone, but can we arrange a time when you are free for a coffee and a chat and I will show you what I am doing and you can let me know what you think about it. Next Thursday at mine at 7 pm. Excellent. I will make sure the TV is off and it is quiet so we can concentrate. See you soon.” People love to help other people, pay them a compliment about their skill or knowledge and ask for help. Offer them a disclaimer, as in ”it may or may not be for you but do give me your advice”.

Once you get started on your business, two factors come into play. The initial euphoria may have worn off and you may have had some rejections of your services or business. This is where many soon give in and often throw away a potential fortune. It is all about you maintaining your MOTIVATION and your PERSISTENCE…..you probably all know the Kentucky Fried Chicken story of Colonel Sanders being rejected time after time regarding his new recipe and how he kept on going……and KFC is just about everywhere today.

Take a look at the top entrepreneurs, let’s say Richard Branson. Think about his different qualities. Write them down on paper and for each one either put the quality under the heading of SKILL or ATTITUDE. When you have finished add up both sides. You will probably find you have made many more entries on the attributes in the ATTITUDE column than the SKILL column. Attitude is no doubt more important than skill in business. If you believe you will be unsuccessful, you are right, if you believe you will be successful, you are also right. Don’t forget it’s also all about taking ACTION… if you do nothing then how do you expect to do well?….some people complain their business is slow and when you ask them how many people they have spoken to about it the answer is often ”none” or ”one last month” and ”it was my best friend and she said no and I asked her another 20 times and she said maybe next week, but I didn’t ask anybody else”. Some people spoke to 10 people last month, some spoke to 10 people last week, but some people speak to 10 people every day of the week.

Getting and dealing with rejection is part of the process of being successful in business. A ”no” should not be taken personally. I always teach my team the SW rule… Some Will, Some Wont, So What? NEXT! You may get 10 ”no’s” before you get a ”yes”. This can be part of the fun and every rejection brings you nearer to the next positive outcome.

I have done a video on You Tube dealing with Objections and my sponsor Zak and myself discuss rejection and why people may be worried about joining a networking business on another video. I have even put together 5 training videos referred to as Seminar 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5 and you can see these and other topics on my You Tube Channel. I would strongly recommend you to visit my You Tube Channel and watch the videos, and of course ask your friends to do the same. We are gaining friends and subscribers all the time and you are welcome to join. We have also recently activated a Twitter account and you can follow us on there.